Your purpose is always in the language of a young person

purpose tips Feb 09, 2019

This is something I think makes a world of difference for people and purpose and that is: Your purpose is always in the language of a young person.

The idea of this is that our purpose has been with us for a very long time. You could say that it is part of, you know, who you are. It's part of your spirit or soul and energy. And for some people that you know, they say that it was with us before we were born. Some people say it was with us at birth, but either way, if state came was for a very long time.

When we first started using our purpose, when we first started interacting with it, even if we didn't know exactly what it was, we would have been in the mindset of a young person.

No matter what purpose work you've done – no matter what it is – ask yourself, is this how I would have described it when I was like 10, 11, or 12 years old? If it's not, it's probably what I call “adultified” and it's too intellectual and it's too heady.

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Add feeling to your 30-second introductions for greater success

Uncategorized Oct 12, 2018

Do you cringe thinking about introducing yourself at networking events?

I used to a lot.

I would stumble and fumble and always feel like there was a better way to describe myself and what I did no matter how much I practiced.  And I noticed I wasn't alone in that experience. Seemed like everyone either has that awkward moment before introducing themselves or they say something that sounds just like every other person in their industry.

Things started to change for me when I attended a networking event and helped a friend video attendees talking about their businesses. I listened and listened and there was one thing that missing for me over and over.

Didn't matter if the attendees were in insurance, banking, marketing or personal training. I was looking through the camera, listening to them and just yearning to hear how they were going to make their clients feel. When the person struggled a bit, I asked "how do you want your clients to feel?" as a prompt and their faces...

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Purpose in Tough Conversations

Uncategorized Mar 07, 2018

Recently, I saw a friend that had posted something that was degrading towards a minority community of people. I have called him out for derogatory comments before but I always just ended up angry and felt not very effective in my delivery. But this time I actually knew a bit more about him. For all that says, he is actually about people feeling loved and supported (his words).

When I saw him I said "I saw the post and I know you are about people being loved and supported and I don't think that did either of those for that group of people and their families." He was surprised but we ended up having a long conversation about what he meant. 

At one point he said "well how am I supposed to post anything?".

Took me a couple seconds to respond but then I said "well maybe that is the point. Because you are about people being love and supported you don't get to just post anything. You have to take a moment and explain what you are thinking so they know where you are coming from."


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Reason #47 why label your purpose up in conversation

Uncategorized Mar 01, 2018

Reason 47 why we need to be bringing up our purpose in conversations - because labeling your purpose helps the other person understand the energy he/she is experiencing but can't quite figure out.

You may be about joy or happiness or transforming the world but that won't be exactly clear to the person if you don't label it. Then what happens is as you speak that the person feels that energy and tries to figure it out (aka "where is this person coming from?").

But since what he can't quite put a finger on it doubts creep in about you, your energy and then probably himself (as things often return to ourselves of course).

But if you say "I am about this" or "My purpose is..." then you are bringing clarity to what he is feeling. That will put his wondering mind to rest and allow him to hear what you are saying.

This is really important for people that have just discovered their own purpose. Of course you are present to it and you think everyone can see it. But they don't - especially...

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Let your purpose shine through

Uncategorized Feb 27, 2018

Pulling together quotes on purpose and re-read Marianne Williamson's "Our deepest fear..." quote for the first time since I really got clear on my purpose (helping people see the greatness in themselves and others). The last part jumped out at me:

"And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."

To me this says that the more we share our purpose the more we give others the freedom to embrace their own. Goes with Brene Brown's work about the power of vulnerability. The more we share our purpose (and take actions consistent with it) we are showing people that it's possible to step past their own fears and to share who they really are.

Each of us is amazing and unique in our own way and have a much greater impact than we know (my videos prove that). So I know I sound crazy when I talk about the power of sharing your purpose in everyday language but when...

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