I’ll admit, this feels a little cringy.

Writing out a dating profile for myself and for the kind of woman I want to meet isn’t something I expected to do. But it turned out to be a surprisingly powerful exercise.

I used something I call the Gold File. It’s a running document where I track my daily thoughts, fears, wins, and lessons. Over time, it becomes a personal record of who I am at my best and what actually matters to me.

For this exercise, I didn’t brainstorm or make a list of ideal traits. I pulled directly from that file to write two profiles: one describing me as I am today, and one describing the kind of partner who would genuinely align with my values and vision. It felt awkward at first, but the clarity it gave me was real. If you’re trying to figure out who you are or what you want, this kind of reflection might help more than you expect.

The Woman You Should Date: A Values-Aligned Partner in Growth

She is grounded in her own values—likely something like courage, connection, and curiosity—because she lives with intention and is willing to explore her inner world to grow. She's not interested in surface-level living. She’s willing to acknowledge fears, talk through doubts, and then take aligned action anyway.

She doesn’t need you to have it all figured out. In fact, she’s drawn to your vulnerability, your relentless drive to use your fears as fuel, and the vision you’re building. She wants to co-create a meaningful life, not just enjoy the result of one.

She has her own goals—personal and professional—but isn’t obsessed with status. She gets fired up about creating impact, helping others succeed, and celebrating growth (hers, yours, and the people around her). She finds joy in the messy, real, uncertain path that comes with building something meaningful.

She’s emotionally intelligent. She doesn’t shrink when the conversation gets real, and she won’t ghost you when life gets hard. She’s more interested in your honesty than your perfection.

She is curious about how your mind works and how you keep showing up even when you're afraid. She might say, “What do your values say to do here?” or “What can we celebrate today?” because she gets the power of that rhythm.

She also laughs. A lot. She brings lightness into the serious stuff, maybe teases you when you get too in your head. She hikes, dances, or goes on spontaneous road trips. She's up for talking through existential doubt over tacos and tequila—or doing journaling prompts together on a Sunday morning.

Most importantly: she wants to build a partnership that feels like freedom. Not freedom from commitment, but freedom to be more of yourselves together. She wants to be in a relationship where both of you keep growing, keep creating, and keep cheering each other on.

Joey Chandler: A Man Who Turns Fear Into Fuel

Joey is a man who shows up. Not because life is easy or perfect—but because he’s committed to growing in a way that works for him, his son, his clients, and the people he hasn’t even met yet.

He’s not afraid to admit he’s afraid. In fact, he’s built a life and business around acknowledging fear, then using it to generate clarity, action, and growth. He journals, reflects, and moves—not in search of some polished version of himself, but in pursuit of momentum, truth, and meaningful progress.

At his core, Joey is driven by three values: courage, curiosity, and connection. They’re not posters on a wall. They’re what guide his decisions, his relationships, and the way he runs his business. Courage pushes him to ask hard questions and take bolder action than he did yesterday. Curiosity helps him look at his doubts without flinching. Connection keeps him grounded in relationships and responsibility—especially as a father.

He’s a builder. He builds apps, systems, programs, communities—but most of all, he builds people. He helps them find clarity in their chaos, identify fears without shame, and move forward with tools that actually work.

He celebrates the small wins because he knows they’re the foundation for the big ones. He doesn’t fake confidence—he earns it, day by day, through reflection, aligned action, and repetition. He’s the guy who says, “Let’s talk about what’s really stopping you,” and means it.

Joey is also fun. He’s intense, but not overwhelming. He’ll meet you in deep conversation one minute, then invite you on a spontaneous hike or road trip the next. He’s as interested in laughter and love as he is in systems and growth.

He’s not looking for someone to fix him. He’s looking for someone who gets it. Someone who wants to grow beside him, build something meaningful, and use fear not as a red light—but as a spark.

Yes - that is a bit cringy, but to be honest, there are things in that I like but never knew to think about.

You can create your version of this, too. Just use the Freelie app for a few weeks to capture your thoughts, clarify your goals, and work through your fears. Then, take what you’ve written and ask your favorite AI to turn it into a dating profile, a personal bio, or even a mission statement. You will be surprised by how much clarity and confidence is already inside you. Freelie helps bring it out.